Two more sleeps until I am 30 and boy, does Facebook know it. The articles popping up in my feed are amazing. Ads for Health insurance, comfortable shoes, IVF – which is funny given my medial history. I also scrolled past an article about being 30 which was accompanied with a picture that said, “Level 30: Game Over”. I beg your bloody pardon. Since when is it all downhill from 30? Most people have been telling me that 30 is the new 20, which I don’t want a bar of either. At 20 I was wearing revealing clothes with cleavage pushed up under my chin, so much so that I had a party trick of doing shots out of them (Hi Mum!). I was living overseas “finding myself” and so consumed doing that, that I didn’t truly appreciate the fact I was living in one of the most beautiful places in the world: The Canadian Rockies. Don’t get me wrong, 20 was fun but I have been HANGING to turn 30.
The main reason I have been obsessed with aging is because I thought with age comes more wisdom, knowledge, credibility and stability. Turns out you must work for those things – you don’t just wake up as a fierce girl boss with no debt, a house, partner, possibly with pets and kids as well. Remember when you were 16 and you’d meet a 30-something year old and think they had their life together? And I’m pretty much there and I can tell we’re all just winging it a little. When I meet teenagers now and I tell them how old I am I get thrown questions like “Are you married?”, “Do you have kids?”, “Do you have a house and a really cool car?”. And I suppose with those superficial checks I am doing OK. I have the greatest husband in the world (that is a fact), we have a sweet house in the west of Melbourne and we love our Kia cars. Those things aren’t really the benchmarks for life, though.
There are hundreds, if not thousands of articles online with check lists of things to do before you turn 30 and I may have read about 10 of them. Having a quick scan, I was chuffed. I’ve slept on a beach, gone skinny dipping, lived alone and travelled alone, learned new languages, volunteered for charities, raided Mum’s wardrobe and taken part in many karaoke nights. One website suggested to do a half marathon and I will be damned if someone suggests that to my face as my body is not made for running. The only one I’d consider doing is the Beer Lover Marathon in Belgium, because you don’t have to finish the course and there is a lot of beer involved.
Thinking back to some of the goals I set for my 20s, I realised I had achieved them:
Get my health in order. It may have taken me the best part of a decade but I got there.
Win an ACRA (Australian Commercial Radio Award). I am lucky enough to be the proud owner of one but I have since realised an ACRA doesn’t equal career success.
Cut my hair off. It took until I was 22 but I did it. Then grew it out again due to pressure and chopped it all off again this year.
Be OK with the fact that everyone won’t like me. Such a simple thing to grapple in theory but hard to remember.
Learn to cook and host dinner parties. My friendship circle taught me this and I’m so thankful. I still stick to eggs of some kind most days but I have signature dishes to bust out when needed.
Teach my palate to like wine. I NAILED this. Comes in handy for said dinner parties.
Be honest. I don’t mean answer yes if someone asks me if I pick my nose. I mean have honest conversations, be honest with myself and even when I know it may not be received well, speak the truth.
Meditate. This took me 7 years to do but now that I’m there, I can’t recommend it enough.
What do I want for myself over the next decade? Perhaps stop yoyo dieting. I’m currently doing the Keto diet so give me a few more years with that one. I might even get my super in order, exercise weekly and not just in waves, floss more often and learn how to clean stains without having to call Mum and Dad to come over to help me. Although, it is a good excuse to get my parents over to my house as we live an hour apart.
The term “fake it until you make it” seems to be applicable to adulting so I will stick with that and hope that I’m doing a good job. For now, I am thankful for my life and everyone who has helped make it so wonderful. And I can’t wait to celebrate that this weekend. Cheers to Mum for having me at this time of the year so that I get a long weekend to celebrate and more importantly, recover.